Learning how to let go, was one of the most challenging lessons, I’ve learned in my life. The process of letting go, asks you to look at your life and take inventory. It asks you to choose, what is serving your highest good, and let go of what is no longer serving your souls growth. The process of letting go brought my hidden fears to the surface, and lovingly help me make a better choice.  I was faced with a decision we all will eventually have to make, stick with what is comfortable and familiar and become stagnant energy, or take a step in faith, trust your higher self and move forward embracing change.

A lot of people say they like and want change, but they hold on to bad habits, people and environments. All because of fear, fear of the unknown. Guess what sweetheart, you don’t have to know everything. It’s not a test if you know all the answers. When you make a conscious decision to let go of things in your life that is no longer serving your highest good. You exercise your free will, it’s you birthright to be whom ever you desire and choose to be. When you walk away from the old you towards the new you, it is the most frightening, liberating, calming, frustrating (I could go on forever) experience a soul makes.

The process of letting go saturated in self love, makes the experience less painful. It is a process because it takes time to replace old habits with new ones, be patient, gentle and understanding with yourself. It takes patience to keep going and start all over again. It takes perseverance to keep your eye on your vision of your new self, when your old self continues to create situations and circumstances in your life , that make you want to stick with what is familiar.

The lesson of letting go will be the most challenging and rewarding to those who yearn for change but are paralyzed by fear. It is when your true essence conspires with the universe to create experiences in your life that force you to make necessary changes in your life, for your souls growth and development.

Letting go comes when it is time to move to a higher level, so you can merge with your higher self. It is the expansion of your being, through being the best version of yourself. It is what you really are, and who you choose to be, that you are being pulled towards the reality of.

Small story…

I was in a relationship with a man that I stubbornly refused to let go of. Even though he treated me terribly. Because  I lacked self love, I clung to this man, hoping that one day he would see that I’m worth loving, and treat me better. This lasted a decade and even after all that time had passed and we created 2 children in the relationship, he still treated me deplorably.

Letting him go was a really hard thing for me to do, because I didn’t know that I was suppose to love myself first. After a decade with this man, I was just plain sick and tired of all the bullshit and drama, that came with this type of relationship. I was beginning to wake up. When I  began to focus more on myself and less on him, I realized that I was a kind, caring, gentle soul, that deserved love.

Deep down inside, that self love I had denied myself for so long, began to gently, but persistently raise to the surface. When it finally dawned on me that I treated myself way better than he ever did. Letting  go of the relationship, brought such a great sense of relief. I knew I had made the right decision.

I took the lessons learned through the letting go process, and moved forward towards the life my heart desired  for myself and my children. I also learned that letting go of that karmic relationship, prepared  me for my soulmate relationship. I learned that like attracts like. And if I just kept falling in love with all of me, the good and the bad. I would attract a man that would do the same, when the time was right.